Our experience, our perception of our experiences are dominated by the concepts that we believe to be true. We call these “our beliefs”. There are two kinds of beliefs. The first is what we consciously believe and we normally think these are true - for we believe them. They range from our preferences in consumer products, our self image ideas, our opinions of others, our concepts of religion or metaphysics, our ideas of what is fair and honest and can be mostly found in what we express as our opinions.The second kind of beliefs are held in our subconscious mind. They are ideas that we have accepted over the course of our lives which have dropped out of conscious awareness and are unseen and unknown to most of us.
Many of these beliefs were accepted as true when we were very young and we accepted ideas without question. These beliefs are activated by outside triggers and from these triggers we have responses. Sometimes these responses cause us to feel emotion, and they cause us to respond in a certain fashion. Other beliefs cause conflict within us which is often manifested in physical illness, inabilities in relationships and limits on what we think we can do.
The conscious mind beliefs can be changed by talk therapy of various kinds, by being given new information that allows us a different perspective or adds some additional knowledge or experience. Conscious beliefs change over time and what we believed yesterday may not be what we believe today. The role of a therapist in changing conscious beliefs allows a person to examine contradictions in thoughts that they hold and cause them to change these thoughts in a logical and reasoning way.Many of these beliefs were accepted as true when we were very young and we accepted ideas without question. These beliefs are activated by outside triggers and from these triggers we have responses. Sometimes these responses cause us to feel emotion, and they cause us to respond in a certain fashion. Other beliefs cause conflict within us which is often manifested in physical illness, inabilities in relationships and limits on what we think we can do.
Sadly, the changing of unconscious beliefs do not respond to talk therapy. These beliefs are held within us by aspects of our subconscious that psychology has labelled “sub personalities” which are aspects of ourselves. These “sub personalities” in my terminology are called “parts”. Many of us have had the experience of stating something like this: “I really want to do this, but a part of me is afraid.” Or, “I really like most of this but a part of me isn’t sure that it is good for me.”
This is a direct clue that there is a subconscious belief, held by a “part of you” that is not in agreement with other “parts of you” and that there is a conflict. The ability to access these mini intelligences within us and dialog with them to discover what beliefs they are holding and what behaviors they are causing is the essence of this therapy.
Now, the wonderful thing I can share with you is this; a “part” can change the belief it is holding to another belief that will not be in conflict with what you want to experience in your life. And once that part changes, then it is like the conflict was never there - it is totally out of your memory and experience. Therefore the triggers from the outer environment no longer trigger a maladaptive behavior and the emotional or physical problem often disappears - never to return again.
An example: Some people have phobias, which is a descriptive word to describe a particular fear. Let us say that you fear dogs. When a dog comes near you, you experience anxiety and fear feelings within your body that cause you to want to get away from the dog - even though the dog is not threatening you in any way. It is an irrational fear, but to you it is real because your body is releasing chemicals into your blood stream that your organs and muscles respond to with feelings that you identify as fear. You may have had this response for years of your life and these fears have inhibited your experience in that you might find without the fear, that you enjoyed the company and companionship that comes with a loving dog.
What is happening is that some “part of you” is holding an unconscious belief that “dogs are dangerous and will cause you physical harm.” It creates the feelings of fear to protect you from harm. Even though
this response may cause problems in your life and you may even intellectually know that this is an irrational fear, you cannot deny the experiences of your own body.
Conventional talk therapy or counseling will not change this physical response. Drugs to mask the feelings of fear may work, but the minute you stop taking them, the feelings of fear return. Behavioral methods of constantly exposing you to dogs until you learn to live with or control your fear may work after a long and painful relearning process.
The good news is that there is a solution. Belief Restructuring is a process of accessing that “part of you” that holds the belief that “dogs are dangerous” and restructuring that belief to a new belief that “dogs are safe and lovable.” Once that “part of you” accepts the new belief, you will no longer have the release of chemicals into your bloodstream that creates within you the feeling of fear - it will be gone. Without the experience of fear, you are now able to touch dogs, be in the presence of dogs, love dogs and be in an intimate relationship with a dog. Quite a change in a person's life.
So, I would ask you to consider a session with me to explore your fears, anxieties, physical illness and discomforts that are creating dissatisfaction with your experiencing of your own life. In my opinion, life should be more or less free of pain and fear. You may then enjoy the pleasant emotions and states of life that we call happiness, health, joy and creativity instead of the lack of these positive experiences.
My initial session is free. In it we will explore those areas of life that you would wish to change. We will explore your ability to access your subconscious through your inner senses and we will determine if these processes are acceptable to you. If I feel we can productively work together and that you will benefit from this therapy, then further sessions can be scheduled. Give yourself the chance to change.
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